APOSTLE BETSON KIKOTI
I have three questions to discuss with you:
- When a marriage breaks down, who is held accountable before God?
- In a marriage, who is the protector of the other, the husband or the wife?
- In a marriage, who causes joy and peace between the husband and wife in the spiritual realm?
1. When a Marriage Breaks Down, Who is Held Accountable Before God?
Genesis 3:9: “But the Lord God called to Adam, ‘Where are you?’”
In the time of Adam and Eve, when problems arise in a marriage, it is often said that the home belongs to the wife, as she is the one who knows where everything is. When parents have children, they should start teaching them responsibility early on. If children are not taught to work at a young age, the consequences may become apparent later in life. The wife understands how the household should be managed.
Many people suffer due to negligence in small family or marital matters. A husband can ask his wife about how things are going in the home, but if the wife lacks understanding, she may not provide the right answer.
Genesis 3:10: “He answered, ‘I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.’” When God was walking in the garden, He was checking on the marriage. God examines your marriage every day. Any form of destruction in the home cannot be avoided by the wife because the home is her domain.
1 Corinthians 11:3: “But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”
So, who is asked when the home falls apart? The head of the man is Christ. The man is accountable to ask God about everything. The man is the glory of Christ before God, and when God sees the man in heaven, He sees glory. The man should understand what the wife is thinking and what needs she has. The man is the glory of God, and the wife is the glory of the man. Families should live together in joy.
Psalms 45:10-11: “Listen, daughter, and pay careful attention: Forget your people and your father’s house. Let the king be enthralled by your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord.”
Why should the wife honor her husband? Because she brings joy into the family. There is no prayer from a woman that will be blocked by God—heaven listens carefully to a mother’s cry.
When you love your wife, you accept her weaknesses, bringing healing. There is no accusation that a husband can bring against his wife that will be accepted by God. Why will it not be accepted? Genesis 3:12: “The man said, ‘The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.’” The husband was given authority in the marriage, and the only one who can resolve the wife’s issues is God Himself.
2. In a Marriage, Who is the Protector of the Other?
Jeremiah 31:22: “How long will you wander, unfaithful daughter? The Lord will create a new thing on earth—the woman will protect the man.”
The woman is the protector of her husband because the head of the man is very important. As a woman, you should pray for your husband before God so that he continues to be strong and good. The man is meant to bring healing, not harm.
1 Timothy 2:13-14: “For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner.”
3. In a Marriage, Who Brings Joy and Peace Between the Husband and Wife?
Deuteronomy 24:5: “If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.”
The wife is the joy of the husband, and the woman is always joyful. Who brings peace to the home? The husband is the one responsible for bringing joy and peace to his wife and to the household. Joy in the family comes from the man.
